Best Friend

Today  I want to write about my best friend who passed away with a brain tumor almost 2 years ago.  I still miss her very much.  Maybe you have a best friend too that you would like to share about.  Feel free to share about your friend.

What is a Friend?

It is someone that you care about and talk to about anything.  They are with you through the good times and the bad.  I have been so blessed to have a friend like this for many years.  We became grandmas together when both of our daughters became pregnant at the same time.  We didn’t know whether to laugh or cry!

We met many years ago when our daughters were little girls and then our friendship just grew.  I even knew my friend before I met my husband of twenty years.  She has been with me when I was going through some of the worst times in my life.  She was always there for me.  She would always say it would be ok and with her help I got through it.

There were funny times to like when she was at my front door wearing only a slip because she got locked out of her house. Boy did we laugh and laugh. (Lol)  We always had something happen when we were together.  We made many zoo trips together with our children.  One time I remember we got a flat tire .  It really isn’t funny but we had so much fun and interesting times together.

I will never forget those treasured memories.  One time we went to the Greece Ridge Mall and we spent the whole day sniffing perfume.  (Lol) That’s a friend when you do things together no matter what it is.  It’s such a special bond.  That was just us just having fun talking and sharing with each other.  That’s what a true friend is.  Even sitting on my front porch talking and laughing with our coffees.  That was so special to me so cherish every minute you have with your friend because you never know how long that special time will last.  I am saying goodbye to my best friend but those times will live in my heart forever and I will never forget her or our friendship.  And I know one day we will be together again and that makes me feel good.  I can’t wait for that day so we can laugh together again.  😊

 

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Blog reflection

Today is Columbus day and my youngest daughter is home from school and my husband Gary is home from work too.  So I thought I would reflect on my blog.  This is all very new to me so if anyone has any encouragement I would really appreciate it.  I’m just trying to help other people who may be struggling in one way.  I’m just a mother who has two grown daughters and two who live with me.  I’m also a grandma to three and one more on the way in December.

Sometimes I feel like I want to do something but right now I am just staying home trying to keep myself busy.  I have worked in several daycares and preschools.  I have worked with all age groups.  This can be a very rewarding job!  I do the usual things laundry, clean the house and do the dishes.  After my daughter has her baby girl in December I’m going to babysit her.  I’m looking forward to that.  I really can’t take a regular job right now because both of my parents have serious health problems so I like to be around when they need something.  I only live five minutes from them.  So it’s very convenient.

I like to write so this is great for me.  I hope you keep coming back and I will try to do my very best! Please if you need anything I will try and help !  If you have any suggestions for me I hope you know you can share it! I would love to hear all of your stories too! I will share my life experiences and some poems!  It’s my hope that I can help someone! I hope you are all having a great day and enjoying the beautiful fall weather.

Holidays

I remember all the time while I was growing up and even after I was out of the house my mom would decorate for all the Holidays.  She loved it so much and now since she has Alzheimer’s she has lost interest in doing that.  For Valentine’s day she would put conversation hearts in a little candy dish and window clings up on the window.  She always had red twinkling lights up too.  It was always so nice and see all the decorations that she spent time putting up.

On Easter she had a little Easter tree with Easter eggs dangling on it.  She really loved decorating for all the Holidays.  I know all my family enjoyed it.  I really miss that amongst other things.  It sometimes seems like a life time ago.  It’s so very sad all these memories can be erased from your mind and they may not return.  I know they are still there somewhere but we all have to work extra hard to try and help this person find them again.

So this year Thanksgiving and Christmas will come again and maybe my mom will remember and maybe she won’t.  I know I will try my very best to love her no matter what and I will take a great deal of pictures because nothing will replace that time.  God please touch and my mom and help her to remember.  😊

 

Sunday Dinner

Sunday’s in my family have always been a real important day to me.  Even when I was growing up on Sunday my mom would make a special meal for us.  I guess what I mean about special is like something you might have on a Holiday a ham, roast or something that would smell up the she house with the aroma.  I always looked forward to it every week because we would all sit down together.  I’m trying to pass that on to my own family but sometimes that is hard because of our schedules.  Now since my mom has gotten where she gets confused to cook anymore I make a meal on Sundays for my mom and dad.

All the rest of the week they get meals on wheels which really helps them.  I’m so thankful for the local office for the aging they have really helped me out a lot.  I think this is a real privilege to be able to do this I think it makes me feel better by doing it than them.  I just feel it’s something that I can do it’s just a little something that helps them   It’s worth it to me just to be able to help them out any way that I can.  After all they have seen me through a lot of things in my life that’s the least I could do.  Sometimes we put ourselves in boxes but sometimes we need just to forget about what you are expected to do and just do what you feel is right.  So today I’m thankful for another Sunday dinner.😊

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Family

I’m titling this post family because you have to belong to a great family to deal with this disease. I have that just right now sometimes I wish there were more people helping my mom and dad out. I try and visit them every other day to make sure they are alright.  Sometimes it’s hard to make sure all by myself.  It would be great to share some of the duties and tears with someone else.  It can be  frustrating as a daughter to have to keep a eye on her parents but I really don’t mind.

I’m glad I’m close by for them.  I am only about five minutes away from them.  I find it a real privilege to help them out as best that I can.  After all they are my parents and God says who honors their parents live a long life.  I would want the same kind of things done for me.  😀 You never know when you will be on the other side of things.  It’s very important to keep in contact and let the rest of the family know what is going on.  It makes things a little easier on everybody involved. I know that they care and they all have busy lives.  We are all in this together and that’s what really matters.

Not There

I’m titling this post not there today. Sometimes when I spend some time with my mom I feel like she’s not there . Her body is there but her mind has vanished someplace else. It’s kinda hard to understand but they are like in a shell. They have lost all sense and any communication that once was there has gone away ! It’s not their fault it just robs you of any happy times that you used to enjoy. It really  steals away all of your enjoyment ! It’s devastating because you know this person but now they are trapped in their own body ! My mom always used to ask me if I needed any help when she would come over for dinner and now she just sits there with no emotions hardly at all. She’s been on this medicine for three months now and I am wondering if it’s really helping her because all I see is her slipping away from me more and more each day ! All I can do is cry myself to sleep just about every night cuz it feels like I’m going to burst if I don’t right now ! That’s all I can do ! It’s really hard!

Repeat

I titled this post repeat because this is what a person with this disease does. They might ask you the same question over and over again because they forget that they asked you. Sometimes this can very frustrating but it’s not them it’s the disease that is affecting them. Also it’s like they repeat everything on a daily basis. They do the same things ! I know it’s very hard to watch someone you love do this every day ! My mom can’t remember if she has watched a tv show before . She might one day and not the next.  Today I went over there to get something for my husband and my dad decided he wanted to come over to our house ! Well when they got there my mom hugged me and said its nice seeing you because she already forgot I was there not even half a hour ago ! She had already forgotten ! This is extremely hard of you because you really don’t know if one day this person who you have been with your whole life is not going to remember you at all . It breaks your heart in a million different pieces. You just wish it could be different again but you just can wish for better days and cherish all the days you have to spend with them and show them your love.😃❤️